Guest Blogger – Kenny the Male Mommy Blogger
What would a guest blogger week be without hearing from the other side?
Having a daddy blogger friend has been priceless. Especially when my dearest hubbs doesn’t exact get it. Ya know? He stares at me like I have three eyes when I start talking about blogs, tweets and followers. And, somehow, just knowing that someone of the opposite sex understands, makes me feel a little more human.
And, for me, there is no other daddy blogger we relate to quite as well as Kenny from SmonkYou. Those weekly updates and adorable photos suck in even the most dedicated mommy-only bloggers. I promise, it will only take reading about Going to the Office or how he thinks so much about his beautiful wife before traveling out of town for you to be hooked.
Enjoy!
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When Tiffany asked me to do a guest post for her relaunch I thought cool..this will be awesome. Then I thought, wow this is gonna suck because I’m having total creative block.
So I used the wonderful world of the interwebs and asked twitter folks what I should write about. One of the responses I got back was from Tiffany herself asking “how about why a nice guy like you ever decided to get caught up with all the crazy ladies?” And as she’s the host and I like the question I figured I’d pick that.
Let’s start with the first part of the question. There is a huge assumption that I’m a nice guy. Maybe I’m a total creep…it’s the internet after all so how do you know if anyone is who they say they are? Maybe my daddy blog is pure fiction. I could be borrowing pics of a friend’s kid and making everything up as I go. In a way that would be pretty brilliant and pretty fun. I could write a book and get on Oprah…because we know she likes fake memoirs. As I write that out I kind of love the idea…but the thought of it being fiction is in itself pure fiction.
The real story about how I got caught up with a bunch of mommy can be answered two ways. One would be really boring, simple and analytic talking about the actual way I found myself in this place. The other could be more abstract about.
Here’s the boring version first, it was supposed to be short but I’m loquacious so it’s long…
I started my blog because when my awesome wife got pregnant I started putting my foot in my mouth immediately. First the day after she took the test I told her that it was weird that she was looking bloated already (she was only 4 days late.) I mention this kind of often, but I mention it because she was in fact bloated…it went away 2 days later. A couple days after that comment I told her that I thought her nausea was psychosomatic…I mean seriously how can you feel that bad right after she found out? Well I guess you can…and since I was the master of the gaff a friend told me it would be funny if I started a blog…so I did.
Then someone told me to list it on a baby blog site, and I found Top Baby Blogs. And the thing is that’s more of a mom blog site vs. a dad blog site. So now I had strangers coming to my blog and most were women.
As all that was going on I realized that my friends on twitter don’t probably didn’t want to hear about my, pre-kid (it’s what I called Miloh before he showed himself). So I set up a twitter account for the blog. Then little by little my tweets on my personal @stumblingmonk account got fewer while the @smonkyou ones got more frequent…and that’s basically the boring how found my self a dad among all these crazy moms.
If you want to blame someone you can probably blame fellow guest blogger Morgan from the818.com because she was one of the first non-real-life friends to comment on my blog and one of the first moms I connected with on twitter. You can also blame another guest blogger Mandy from harpershappenings.com for helping me gain mommy blog followers from a guest post I did on her blog.
Now for the non-boring version.
First I should say that I’m a bit of a reluctant blogger. Had my friend not mentioned it a few times I would have never started writing. Before I started writing I never really checked out blogs that were already out there. No mommy blogs and no daddy blogs. So I didn’t realize there were dad blog communities. And like I said Top Baby Blogs is predominately a mom blog deal that’s sort of where I fell.
In being reluctant I really didn’t put a lot of energy out there to promote my site…and I still don’t…so I kind of stay in the bubble I started in. It’s expanded a quite a bit and now even includes some guys. Although I’d guess that of my 500 twitter followers only about 20 are guys.
But then there is the question of why I feel comfortable with all the ladies? I guess my twitter/blog life pretty much mirrors my real life. I hate to say it but at first impression I’m not a huge fan of most guys. My dad is a total ass so that’s probably where a lot of it stems from. I’m getting over this a little bit as I’ve met some cool dads online recently.
I’ve always been friendlier with more girls than guys. Most of my roommates have been women and all of my girlfriends were women (well I guess that’s obvious.) Plus I got the awesome nickname of Kenny the Male Lesbian from all my lesbian friends in Chicago.
So really it’s a combination of my online personae matching the real me (which is a good thing), me being a little lazy in not promoting myself and really just being content and comfortable being a dude among women.
Maybe I can wear the title of Kenny the Male Mommy Blogger.
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See! I told ya.
24 comments
Kenny the Male Lesbian. That’s funny! Power to ya…keep on keepin’ on!
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Haha, I had to share your comments on your wife’s boating and psychosomatic symptoms with my husband, since he’s sitting right here. His jaw dropped and he gasped “oh no – he actually said that?” Lol!
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You should write a book on what not to say to pregnant women. Thanks for sharing. I really enjoyed it.
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As someone who has just started their own daddy blog, this is a refreshing piece. Although my dads not an ass.
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I’m like you but the opposite if that makes any sense. I get along SO much better with the guys rather than the girls. Probably why I have a hard time on twitter. Too many ovaries in my tweet stream!
Great post, Kenny the Male Lezbob!
Also, My Dad is an ass as well.
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I will never forget the time my husband oinked at me when I was four months pregnant. Unfortunatly he couldn’t start a blog because I killed him in a hormone rage.
But seriously I think it is awesome to have a male mommy blogger. I tried to talk my husband to even guest posting on my blog and he laughed in my face and turned his face back towards football!
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You’re welcome, Internet.
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“…and all of my girlfriends were women”, hah…this dudes just effn’ funny…you gotta follow his tweets
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thanks all for checking out the post and for the comments. Thanks tiffany for letting me hang out here.
Also I don’t think a father being an ass makes a person a good or bad blogger…there are plenty on both sides.
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And the rest was history.
My husband would have been killed if he ever said my morning sickness was psychosomatic. Not immediately of course, because I was too busy laying on the bathroom floor. But soon thereafter…
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Great post Kenny! I love your blog and followed you over here to see a bit of back story. You’re the only daddy blogger I follow… I think I need to expand my reading.
I said to my husband (through tears – when I was hormonal and 8 months pregnant) that I felt fat. & you know what he said??? “You’re not THAT fat”. Oh how he copped it!
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Great Guest Bloggers, Mrs B!!!
Love the new look! Sorry it had to come about n such a sh*tty way, but I think you definitely came out on top and even better than before!
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Fact checking from Jackie’s sister:
1) Kenny’s dad is an a$$–I know, since he’s my sperm donor as well. (He didn’t serve much of a dad role for us, so sperm donor is more appropriate.)
2) Kenny is a terrific guy and a wonderful father. No creep issues with him.
3) Kenny knows the word “loquacious”?
4) Kenny’s awesome wife Staci and I decided at some point that there’s a bit of gay man in Kenny. I never thought of him as a male lesbian. I thought I had the market cornered in our family for being the lesbian. I might have to rethink that…
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Good journey and experience!
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Wonderful journey and experience!
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Just wanted to say I enjoyed the blog. You have really put a lot of energy into your content and it is just great!
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I’d have to permit with you here. Which is not something I typically do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to speak my mind!
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